Motivational Monday: Back to Being a Badass

When I first became a coach, I kept hearing everyone talk about personal development. I was completely against anything "self help." All because I did not realize truly what personal development was. Hear I thought it would just be some nonsense telling you to love yourself, be yourself, be happy.....bahaha I could not have been more wrong.

Personal development has been my game changer for turning my mentality around in the last year. One of the best things I did, was buy the book called You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life. This book literally changed the way I thought about myself and my life.

Sometimes we need reminders that our worth is not determined by what others think, Jen Sincero wrote, "When we're happy and all in love with ourselves we can't be bothered with the bullshit (our own or other people's)." For the longest time, I compared myself to others. I hated the way I looked and felt. I wished for things I did not have. I didn't love myself at all and it took me time to realize that others do not define how worthy I am of friendship or love.

We live in a world all about comparison, from the magazines on the shelves to the movie stars at the award shows. Our world is obsessed with beauty, with being the perfect image of what a person should be. How wealth somehow brings happiness. I too thought this and quickly I have learned that is not the case. I beat myself up because I didn't have money, I didn't have the finer things, I wasn't super thin with flat abs and amazing hair. I used to just say, I was just me. But in the book I loved reading, "Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life." We truly should just be happy with our efforts and not concern ourselves with others actions.

This crazy world we live in can be harsh, it can beat us down, tear us up and make us negative. But life happens and it is our job to decide how we are going to handle the negative life events that shake our faith and confidence. I know personally I took the negative situations in my life and let them conquer me for a long time. Instead of finding the positive in life, I was stuck on the negative and it was ruining me. Something that resonates with me from the book is, "Feel sad, but don't blow it up into some huge drama. If something negative happens in your life, feel it, learn from it, let it go and go back to focusing on the life you're excited to live." I have this highlighted and try to remember that just because things happen does not deter me from my life goals.

If you feel you could benefit from more positivism in your life to realize your self worth then I highly recommend you read this book.